location : village temple in JB
guest of honour: 村长speaking in a distinct accent addressing his 村民们
leisure activity: listening to the 长辈们sing oldies like 甜蜜蜜and CNY songs
it was quite an eye-opening experince cuz it was the place where mom was brought up. aunt brought me and mei ard the house and told us abt how the house used to be bigger and about the house well and the spooky 蝴蝶婆婆 and showed me mom's primary school which is directly ops the house and also the vegetable garden and many other things.
although things turned out VERY different from what i expected( i went there thinking it was going to be a posh hotel). BUT well, although i was (not pleasantly) Harshly suprised, i slowly saw the beauty in it.
For one, i loved the car journey where i see the respect for elderly. cant quite put it in words but it's like though u know someone is obviously wrong u just go along with the person and "pretend" to listen. haha
Second, i loved the fact that there were Gunungs and Tamans around. the air was cool and crisp too:) everyone there had a very 纯朴look and children were scooting around in motorbikes! even old couples of up to age 70+ were on scooters too. awww...
Third, it felt really surreal to see people of around my age all getting married. And i liked the fact the this couple are both uni grad yet they remain loyal to their roots:D according to 村长， 他们一个是硕士，一个是学士。and of cuz how can i miss out the ktv session where all the elderly sang.. mayb when i am a parent i would love this kinda wedding, i'd prolly hog on to the mike. hoho. but i certainly not wish to be sining one entire sentence later and in a different pitch! hoho.
the culture there was very different too. they actually address each other by shouting OI! across and haha, use plastic bags to tapao the remaining food that were leftover! As i was not feeling very well, i ate remarkably little :( what a waste to the yummy dishes!
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one night, i had a nice chat with mama, and i realise i share many similar encounters with her past. and im really glad i inherited her love for nature:D as she recollected her past, i felt this warm surge through me cuz i could see a child in her eyes and true happinesss as she relished her youth. i was especially touched over her choice of dad. 一颗善良的心 wins over any materialistic wealth. in the end of the day, it was love over bread. now, how many people can make this choice?
for a moment i was feeling very ashamed of myself for feeling certian ways towards my dad and i finally saw the light of usually invisible good points of my dad. these are really the intangibles. sometime in the pursuit of tangible and fighting to climb to the top in terms of job, salary, education level and stuff, we forgot the most basic intangibles like time spent together, love, care and concern and most imptly at the end of the day. whether money or love matters more to u. like what mama say, "dad doesnt have any of the 5Cs", but at least he will go la kopi C with my mama:D
i love conversation that bring about tears and laughter, it only bonds the heart closer. its this kind of conversation that i walk away, feeling like a better person and that i;ve learnt a whole lot more about life and wanting to live the upcoming days to the fullest.
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